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When you hit a reality wall

Last week I was on a coaching call with a colleague of mine, who pointed out some patterns she noticed I kept repeating in my business. Patterns that were keeping me stuck and not growing my business.

It was EYE OPENING because I never identified doing what she stated I was doing.


After she brought it to my attention, I started to notice how it was showing up in other parts of my life as well.

Double UGH.

The first thing my brain wanted to do was deny it ๐Ÿคฅ...

then run from it ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ...

then try to feel better by thinking positively ๐Ÿคฉ...

which made it all worse and didnโ€™t allow for any awareness on my behalf.

As I processed through this new information with my coach, she reminded me of my human-ness. We are not perfect, we humans have human brains and imperfections, instead of trying to feel better because feeling uncomfortable feels so crappy, she offered me to consider these 3 things:

  1. To feel the negative emotion

  2. To acknowledge this is part of my humanity

  3. To give myself a giant dose of compassion.

This is what I'll be working on in my life and business and it's a great learning moment that I want to share with you. These three things - feeling the yucky feels, acknowledging you're a human and giving yourself some love without judgement -

is the key to growth.

It's interesting, the week before this happened I was on a consultation call with a prospect who told me she wanted to DYI it instead of invest in coaching. I mentioned to her the main reason why I continue to invest in coaching is because my coach can see my blind spots that I can't see.

If you can't see the things that keep you stuck - how can you grow?

After what I learned this week - I'm certain even as a coach - having the support of a coach is worth every single penny.

Always sharing what I'm learning,


"I just want to take a minute to say a big thank you! Your coaching truly helped me step into knowing Iโ€™m a life coach at every level of my life. Once you pointed out all the ways I was able to see a new angle and own it! Thank you for helping me see a different way to approach this new exciting identity. Thank you!!!" Michelle A.

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