The Bully in the Room
For those of you struggling with resistance this week - here's an oldie but goodie from the archives...
OH BOY! Guess who came knocking at my door this morning?
Yep, she bulldozed her way into my life with her hands on her hips saying,
"NO WAY PATTY - I DON'T WANT TO DO THAT!"
She said it as I was thinking about some challenges and things I needed to do in my coaching business and in my personal life.
I guess I should have seen the warning signs over the last couple of days when I noticed I was making excuses and finding distractions to steer me away from what I'm suppose to be doing in both those areas.
In Steven Pressfield's book Do The Work he states:
"Resistance is an active, intelligent, protean, malign, force - tireless, relentless and inextinguishable - whose sole object is to stop us from becoming our best selves and from achieving our higher goals."
So this morning I decided to tell that voice of RESISTANCE to sit in the corner and be quiet and then reflected on what could be on the other side of resisting what I was resisting.
Maybe a lesson I need to learn or an opportunity to grow?
Those reflections led me to LET GO and be open to the experience.
Was is uncomfortable?
Heck YEA! ...but what I received in return was worth the short lived discomfort I was feeling.
Do you find yourself:
Postponing a task or project.
Being too self-critic.
Getting obsessed so much over details that results are never good enough for you.
Always finding some excuse not to do something.
Pressfield offers useful weapons to combat RESISTANCE:
Do not judge yourself.
Do something, even if it has defects or it's not perfect.
Self - criticism is not allowed, since it's part of the resistance.
Accept all ideas. There are no standards or rules. The more absurd your ideas seem, the better. The more you move away from the convention, the more likely that you create something totally new.
Stop making excuses. These excuses that you make...they are just excuses.
Have lots of ideas, good and bad, logical and irrational, and catch them all. To begin with, you do not know the potential of an idea.
Act first, think later. Act and reflect. Repeat the process. A work in progress generates a magnetic field that grabs you and pushes you to continue working.
Do not be afraid to fail. Failure is just another way to learn. The real failure is not trying.
If all else fails, remember how the idea was born. What is the reason you wanted to do that? How much do you want it? If there is no passion or commitment, or not a really important reason behind all this, you're probably wasting your time and you must leave. But if there is something really significant and important to you, remembering and acknowledging it will help you overcome your lizard brain.
Now tell RESISTANCE to go sit in the corner - You've got it under control...
Here's to your EPIC 2020 -
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