How do you decide?
Where do you make your decisions from?
This has been the topic with my prospective clients this week. More times than not, they've never had a life coach before they reach out to me. They have no idea how coaching works. Many have only experienced personal growth with traditional therapy.
Therapy and coaching are two very different things. Therapy tends to help people with a condition they may have like depression, anxiety, addiction, trauma…etc. It dives into and spends alot of time in the past to understand why and where it all began.
Coaching is future focused. It’s helps a healthy mind get healthier. It’s centers around accountability and goals. We may dip into the past for reference - but we don’t get stuck there.
So many times my clients come to me with decisions they are trying to make, here’s what happens:
They want to make their decisions based on their past. They send their brain to reference a situation that happened and use the results of their past as evidence to make their current decision.
Here’s the problem with that approach:
The decisions you made in the past is what got you to where you are today. Those same decisions will not get you to where you want to go next.
How can you make a decision about a future you’ve never been to before?
By using your imagination.
You use your imagination to create a future you and then work on building your belief - SIGHT UNSEEN - to make it happen.
How likely are you going to make your goal or vision come true, when you hit obstacles?
It’s an uphill battle, especially with all the negative bias our brain is conditioned to do. (Negative bias - a term coined by researchers that states our brain goes to the negative thinking 70% of the time.)
This is where the power of coaching is.
As a coach, I show you your mind and how your thinking is giving you the results you have in the moment, then redirect you back to your future vision.
I didn’t realize how much limited beliefs where looming around in my head until my master coach showed me my mind...and kept showing me every time I lost focus and felt worried, stressed and anxious. She continuously had me reach for thoughts that got me excited about the future vision I wanted to live. She kept asking me key questions like
“is it useful to think that way?”
She believed in the possibility of my future me -
way before I believed in me.
And now this is what I do for my clients -
I believe in them so fiercely - until they do.
Coaching can help you use your mind in a completely different way to achieve something you've never done before…priceless.
Do you have a dream or a goal of a future you you’d love to live?
As you go for that next best version of you - where will you make your decision from -
The probability of your past or the possibility of your future?
Make great decisions -
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Patricia Cimino is a certified Life Coach who's passionately driven to help women entrepreneurs believe in themselves so they can feel 10' and bulletproof. She teaches a fierce self coaching model that radically changes how her clients think, feel and behave, so they can do what they're passionate about with clarity, confidence and optimism. When she's not coaching, speaking, leading workshops and retreats you can find her sweating it out on her mat or taking advantage of being the only female in a house full of a lot of testosterone..